Unconditional

Everyone thinks of something when they hear this word right? Probably love? Is that the word that popped into your mind?

Unconditional love defined by Wikipedia says “it is known as affection without any limitations, or love without conditions. This term is sometimes associated with other terms such as true altruism or complete love”.

I think those 2 words are one in the same.

Do you really know what love is? The power it holds? I didn't until a few months before the end of 2020. The true understanding of love was coming for me. It has shifted EVERYTHING in my life, it is the reason I am writing these words to you.

2020 has meaning to everyone, a year that started for me with so many challenges, ended with life changing celebration. I have to share a bit about what happened that brought me to where I am now.

In March, I stayed by the bedside of a man I considered to be a Dad for47 years and took care of him until he took his last breath. In June, my amazing friend and business partner died at 53 from cancer. My neighbor, a beautiful woman of God died suddenly. My marriage was challenged. We left the school my girls had been at for 11 years. My daughter experienced betrayal and bullying on a horrific level. The pain of life seriously messed with us this year. I couldn't control any of it, solve any of it or prevent any of it.

I could, however, change how I viewed it all. It was that decision to change my mindset that massive change started to unfold in my life, what I had been praying about started to come about! I didn’t know why then but it was because my focus, energy and attention all had started to shift!

First it was Arbonne, the products are amazing but there was something about the people, all the women that inspired me to join as a consultant. That one decision led me to start reading in a book club Lindsey Roberts with Arbonne had started. That book, The Slight Edge, began to show me the power we all had in each of our days, the power of the compound effect. Thank you Lindsey, you are a huge part of my transformation!

When I started to shift my thoughts, I started to see how precious life is, to value each day with gratitude.

It was then that the next book came to me, The Miracle Morning. I learned a system of how to start my day, just for me. I could literally feel every area of my life begin to elevate and shift again! I knew I wanted to share not just the great products of Arbonne, but these techniques and concepts that were literally transforming my life and all the amazing people that were coming on my path. That is how The Power in Sharing was born!

I knew God was at great work in my life. I started to see how I could let go of all that I felt righteous about and I mean all of it. (Honestly I didn't even realize how righteous I had been! Isn't it funny what we think we deserve? The need we have to be right. How mean, cruel and unfair other people can be, never me of course! How difficult circumstances can be to us?)

What if I made none of it about me. It was at that moment I began to understand the power of love. What if I could show love to everyone no matter the situation? I had heard about people who could do this and never understood how. It also happens to be the greatest commandment in The Bible! (It's 2 fold!) In the Gospel of Matthew God says: 1. “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the great and first commandment. And a second is like it: 2. You shall love your neighbor as yourself”. I had been reading and mulling over this for almost a year until one day, wham! My eyes were opened to an entire new way to live. I got what God meant! I saw with clarity and knew that if God had loved me my whole life, unconditionally for who I am, then who am I not to do the same! It was like putting on new life glasses! It began to strengthen my relationship with my husband and girls like never before! I felt a total new level of awareness.

I choose that in every part of my day I will stay in a place of love, whether I was driving down the road (the best cure to road rage!), running errands, talking to a friend or working on business.

Even the language I used changed, I just didn't feel the need to swear anymore. I choose positive words about everything that I am doing.

My focus shifted off of me and on the blessings I had all around me, ALL the time.

Then I realized one day, I was doing so well but was still holding onto one hard part. Letting go of a person who had been terribly cruel and mean to others who I loved. I had already forgiven the girls and the families who had been so cruel to my daughter, but there was one person that I was still challenged by. My neighbor! There is no irony to the fact that God moved us next door to this person! He knew it would be the very person to teach me “Love your neighbor as yourself!” I knew to honor God, I could not give 98%, I had to be all in at 100%. So, I did it! I reached out to her, asking if she would consider that we could be kind to one another and if we could be there for each other if one of us ever needed anything. She agreed! I don’t know if she will ever change who she is but that is not what matters. What matters is I will love her regardless! That is love. The very love God has for each of us!

Love is the greatest emotion. The great author Charles Hannal states “It is the combination of thought and love which forms the irresistible force of The Law of Attraction”. There is no greater power in the universe than the power of love.

One of the most transformational books you can read about love is The Secret. The author Rhonda Byrne, states” The feeling of love is the highest frequency you can emit. If you would wrap everything thought and feeling with love, love for everything and everyone, your life would be transformed!

The greatest thinkers in our past have referred to the Law of Attraction as the Law of Love. If you think unkind thoughts about someone else, you will experience those unkind thoughts, manifested. You cannot harm another with your thoughts, only yourself. If you think thoughts of love, guess who receives the benefits? You!”

If your predominant state is love, then the Law of Love or Law of Attraction responds with the mightiest force because you are on the highest frequency possible.

The greater the love you feel and omit, the greater the power you are harnessing.

Four words have emerged for me from this experience like a gift: Joy, Contentment, Strength and Peace. Love truly does transcend all. It is my hope that I have inspired you to consider where your thoughts are on love and to dig deeper into pursuing more love in your life. Be ready for big change!

So my question for you is are you willing to let this kind of love into your life? The analogy that comes to mind is from the movie Frozen of all things! Towards the end of the movie, Ana is trying to find Kristoff, her true love in the snow storm, the storm is so big, engulfing her in a fury of snow, ice, wind and she can barely even see. Have you ever had days like that? Feeling engulfed by the storms that life can bring, feeling desperate, not knowing where to turn, when it will end, how will you make it through? Right before she freezes to death, the moment of clarity comes. The storm subsides and Anna is able to see what she needs to do. She jumps in the way of the enemy out of sheer love for her sister, to save Elsa from the sword that is about to strike her. In that moment, she sacrifices her life for another all in the name of love. It is that love that ultimately restores her life and she is reunited with her sister, falls in love with Kristoff and on and on.

Yes I am making a massive analogy with a Pixar movie but they did get it right! Jesus made the ultimate sacrifice for us, giving his life for ours because God loves us so much. A perfect love that meets you right where you are in your life. There is nothing you have to achieve or become to receive this love. When you choose it, the clarity and peace comes. You are Anna trying to navigate the storm, it brings you to a brink where death seems certain and then Boom… Right before the enemy strikes, God calms the storm and puts his love for you before anything else, crushing the enemy in defeat. Just like that, you breathe in a new life, new air, YOU are transformed and your life will become new. A new way to think and feel about every circumstance and every person in your life. RECEIVE and BELIEVE this truth! Love really does conquer all.

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Let's live from a place of love and elevate the whole world, together!